Avoiding the Mail Order Bride Money Scam

There are a few women trying to scam western men. The bigger the dating site, the more of them you’ll find since the bigger dating sites present them with the biggest market and they can more easily blend in with the crowd.

These women are not “bad people”. Please don’t hate them, just learn to recognize them and avoid them. Don’t think of them as criminals or crooks, they are more like “professional friends”. They are just trying to earn a few extra dollars by being friendly to a few men. (Something like a girl that will sit at your table with you if you buy her drinks, but she won’t go home with you.) If you bluntly tell that girl, “I’m not buying you drinks just to have you sit with me”. She’ll get up and leave. The same is true with these online scammer-girls. If, at the first mention of money, you tell her “I’m not here to finance you or support you”. She’ll go away.

One other alternative is to tell her that maybe you can send a couple dollars for Christmas or on her birthday, but that you can not help now and see if she still wants to be friends. There is no right or wrong here. Just do what works for you.

When in doubt, Don’t Send Money!

Most of these scammer-girls believe that *you* are not serious about having a long term relationship OR they believe that they have a better chance of seeing God today than attracting the genuine attention of a goodhearted, sincere man that would love her forever, therefore, she thinks “might as well get what little I can get”.

It is also true that some men have supported a girl’s college education without ever meeting her in person and with little *real* chance of a future marriage. Men do this for various reasons, but the point is, other girls hear of this and think maybe they could also be the recipient of a beneficient western man.

Another point. Most of these girls have a relative living and working in the west, or a friend that has a relative living and working in the west. They have heard of the pay scale, $75,000/yr for a nurse, for example, and are in awe of these huge sums. They know that $50 is not a big deal to most Americans, but it’s a week’s pay in the Philippines.


It’s always the same. In her first few emails she tells you how hard life is in her country. She comes from a big family OR she has no family. Her father died and her mother is sick. Her little brother needs medicine. She quit school because her parents can not afford the tuition. She lost her job and can’t find another one. She lives alone and is behind in her rent. philippines cam girls

Every email will mention how expensive things are for her. And the most common of them all is…

“I want to chat you, but I don’t have money for internet”.

While it’s true that 90% of the girls don’t have a computer at home and therefore need to pay for their internet time at a local internet cafe, it’s also true that it’s very cheap to do this. Usually about 30PHP per hour. (PHP means Philippine Pesos) That’s about 60 cents per hour online.

Think… she could afford to get online in order to join a dating site (and probably more than one). She has an email account that she checks regularly and communicates with her friends and her sister or aunt in America. She also owns a cell phone. Sitting next to her at the internet cafe are dozens of young teenage kids renting computers in order to play online games.

But now she has met you and all of a sudden she can no longer afford the internet cafe. What’s wrong with this picture?

If you bite and agree to pay for her internet, you’ve just bought yourself a professional online friend. And guess what? It just might work out! Go ahead, pay for her internet. Send her money for the medicine for her sick little brother. But her some new shoes so she can walk to school. Pay her tuition. Help her sick mother with the food and rent. But an airline ticket and go visit her. I’m sure you will be warmly welcomed by her entire family and maybe the two of you will fall in love at first sight. See, it just might be possible that she is sincere about you and she is judging your sincerity by your willingness to help her financially. After all, in her eyes, ALL Americans are rich. And if love does not strike, oh well, you have helped another person, you have a friend half way around the world, and I’m sure it cost you much less than dating an American woman.

When in doubt, Don’t Send Money!

I’ll end this section with a slightly crass comparison that might put this issue into perspective.

A woman hinting about her need for money is somewhat like a man hinting about his desire for sex, it should not happen early in the relationship.